Divorce and Remarriage

"Because the Lord has been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously, yet is she thy companion and the wife of thy covenant, and did He not make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit… and wherefore one?….that He might seek a godly seed.
Therefore, take heed to your spirit and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the Lord, the God of Israel saith He hates divorce. For one covers violence with his garment saith the Lord of Host. Therefore, take heed to your spirit that you deal not treacherously.
You have wearied the Lord with your words, yet you say, "wherein have we wearied Him?"…When you say everyone that does evil is good in the sight of the Lord, and in him He takes delight". Matthew 5v42 (Jesus speaking to the Jews) (and you cannot put anything clearer than this)

"It has been said - Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement. But I say to you that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causes her to commit adultery, and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced shall commit adultery".

"Have you not heard that He that made them in the beginning made them male and female and said "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and they two shall be one flesh, wherefore they are no more two, but one flesh. Wherefore what God has joined together let no man put asunder".

They say unto Jesus "Why did Moses then give a writing of divorcement and to put her away?" He said unto them "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives, but from the beginning it was not so."

These Holy Scriptures come down very clearly against divorce and remarriage.In this real world there seems to be two reasons why a man divorces his wife and marries another. (The same reasons can be given to a woman that divorces her husband).1.
The man meets a younger lady with a prettier face and a better body than his wife, (who has given him three children). This new lady admires and flatters him and takes him away from his responsibilities, weights and problems. The new lady wants to live with him. The friendship develops into a close friendship and eventually they have sex. The man leaves his wife and children and lives with the new lady, marrying her later. 2.
People get married with the best of intentions, but as the years go on the marriage becomes a misery for one of the partners. There are a variety of reasons causing this…mental, emotional and physical problems.
One of the partners could be a schizophrenic.
One of the partners could have severe emotional problems, such as hate or fear, that no-one seems to be able to help with.
One of the partners could have long term physical illness that demands such continual care from his partner that the other partner's life, (without any help), is unbearable. Sometimes a very sick child can have the effect where the husband has had enough and runs away, leaving the wife to manage the sick child on her own.It sometimes can become such an impossible situation that one of the marriage partners is thinking of committing suicide. There is no other woman, or man… no affair to draw the partner away. Just continual misery for the wife or the husband. When this happens, when it becomes a choice of divorce or suicide, can any of us judge. There comes a time when, sometimes we must advise that they divorce, for the sake of their health. The wife or husband will meet God on the day of judgement and find Him to be a merciful, compassionate God, who will understand the reasons.It is a rare thing to be completely satisfied with your wife of husband Most of us have things that irritate us about our partners. At times, we would like to have married someone else But we do not want to live on our own. You can understand the Christian Church saying that divorce and remarriage is wrong. It de-stablizes society.

Marriage and understanding men and women.

Where unmarried couples that are living together come to our church we never tell them to get married. If they are seeking God then their marriage will happen naturally.

If two people in the church start living together then it is right to do everything to stop them doing this because God will have little to do with them because they will be 'living in sin'. - There are only three choices -

to get them to marry or

seperate them or

get them to leave the church.

At Christian camps we do not allow unmarried couples to sleep in the same tent or room. This rule is relaxed where they have children to each other.

Here is a list of wise sayings - I hope they help you.

Women meet emotion with emotion.
Men meet emotion with logic. (This is NO help to a woman). Men must learn to comfort and symathise with a distressed woman, and afterwards, quietly put things right.

Women do not need men to organize their lives. They are not stupid or thick headed.

Women should presume that all men are thick headed, and wives are advised to 'spell out' to their husband in very clear language what they want them to do. Men do not take hints.

Women have Emotions.....Men have Ego's.

If you do not praise and reward your husband when he does a job for you, he will find a lady who will praise and reward him, and do jobs for her.
If a woman does not admire her husband......someone else will.

Men are happy NOT to resolve issues.

Women should be blind to their husbands defects, and men should be deaf.

If you are expecting your girl-friend to change....do not marry her.

A lot of men enter marriage with pornogrophy problems.

Men are the head of the family, but they have to learn that their wives have gifts that are better than theirs.

If you are a husband and are in the wrong....never buy your wife flowers....because every time you will buy her flowers she will think "What has he done wrong".

If a woman rebells against her husband, she is also in rebellion against authority.

Most arguments in a marriage are not caused by problems, but by stress. It is stress that caused the explosions. If possible, arrange times to physically relax.

It takes time to build respect and trust, but it can be lost in a second.

If a man loves his wife, he does not see her spots and wrinkles

In a marriage
In marriage, most men seek for admiration, sexual fulfillment and domestic comefort.
In a marriage, most women seek for children, affection and tenderness, security and friendship.

When I was married I was No one in my wife's life. When our first baby came I was No 2 in my wife's life. When my second baby came I was No 3. When my children grew up and left home I was No 1 in my wife's life.